The only way to CORRECTLY feel sorry is DIL SE RE

I was heading back home in an auto, delayed in Delhi traffic as usual, when I heard a sharp jolt.

The saamne wali WagonR couldn't wait another 5 seconds and slammed into the peeche wali suzuki. Ho gaya syaapa! 

And now the actual battling begins, with the biggest question being who will apologise to whom.

And this scene sent me down a rabbit hole of thinking, making me wonder that don't we all know such people.? 

I mean why don't we keep doing things that we're doing if it opens up or helps free someone's mind?

And why do we keep doing it if our acts truly clog someone's mind?

I'm sure you've encountered people that either can't or won't apologise. There's something about them that simply won't let them get past that ego barrier, and then there are those who write a * next to their apology as if it came with a disclaimer. You know like " Terms and Conditions Apply" 

These might sound like these:

" I'm sorry if I offended you or if you felt bad about what I said yesterday

 I'm sorry but, and but ..… " on and on.. 

I mean, it kind of negates the purpose of apologising. This simply passes the blame to the other person and you are telling them that they are the ones who made themselves feel horrible, so please accept my apologies.

I've been thinking about this for a long time, and now I honestly or upfrontly tell people that they should only apologise for something, ONLY if they truly feel sorry, without any "ifs" or "buts," because the true manner of apologising is only Dil se re :) 

And it doesn't stop there.

If you want to keep the relationship going, own up to your actions, apologise for them, and take corrective action. It might be a friend, a coworker, a partner, parents, siblings, a boss, or anybody else. True humility and strength are qualities that not everyone possesses, I have come to realise.

After a lengthy sigh, I notice that the traffic has eased, and my auto driver uncle asks me,  “yaha maafi maangne me itni dikkat kyo hoti hai logon ko?”  I just give him a friendly smile and urge him to keep driving. I'm not telling him that I'm asking the same question too! :)